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30 Days of Kink – Day 21: Favorite BDSM related book (fiction or non-fiction).

I feel like I should have some really super-smart non-fiction recommendation here to write about.  I’ve been re-reading the New Bottoming Book, and getting a lot out of it, but it’s hardly my favorite.  I also feel weird recommending something I haven’t actually finished yet.

But there are these two books I kind of love (though the second is better than the first), one of which I’ve mentioned here before.  Carrie’s Story and Safe Word by Molly Weatherfield.  I mean, they’re kind of complete fluff.  Just erotica.  And they’re certainly not perfect, they have plenty of problems.  It’s also worth mentioning that I loaned them to Garnet and she hates them.  But I like them for a bunch of reasons.

I mean, for starters, I just find them hot.  There are scenarios in them that I enjoy–Carrie gets packed off and sent to all kinds of places (to a human pony farm, then eventually sold to a stranger) to be trained, which is one of those fantasy scenarios I find hot in stories but would be terrifying in real life.  She also gets loaned to another dominant for a party, thoroughly used by the other submissives in the household, then is part of a carefully planned and very well-executed performance for an event, which is something I could almost imagine doing and enjoying in real life.

I also like the way several different things are handled within the stories.  I wish there were way, way, way more negotiation.  Like, there is hardly any.  But the plot is a pretty common one–less experienced girl explores submission with an older, more experienced man.  Sound familiar?  Yeah.  But I love that the kink goes beyond an occasional spanking, and that no one ever at all has a for real crisis of conscience.  Both Carrie and Jonathan definitely have to take some time to sort out their relationship and where they want it to go, but neither of them ever has a big “I like this kinky stuff–is it wrong?” moment.  Ever.  In two books.  And neither of them really wishes for a “normal” relationship or goes on about how damaged they are.  They’re both just interested in kink and compatible and like doing stuff together.  There is also one particular scene that I absolutely love for the way it deals with roles and sex acts, which I’ve written about before.

So yeah.  Not perfect, and I desperately wish that there was so much more negotiation in erotica (though I’m a complete hypocrite, as I’ve never written any erotica that had a decent negotiation scene, either), but so much better than it could be.

I also feel like I should mention that while Garnet and I were off on our romantic weekend getaway for our anniversary, I happened to pick up a copy of The Marketplace by Laura Antoniou, and in addition to being hot, it was so snarky and funny and fun to read that I have got to track down a copy and finish it.

The 30 Days of Kink meme can be found here.

One Response to “30 Days of Kink – Day 21: Favorite BDSM related book (fiction or non-fiction).”

  1.   Garnet Says:

    Ugh. Carrie. Ugggghhhhhh. Steam smut is better than that fluffy "O" remake with terrible pony scenes.

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