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kink and feminism and stuff…formerly known as Absinthe Cocktail.

Archive for June, 2011

So…um…hi?

Posted in Uncategorized on June 3, 2011 by

Blah blah blah, introductory post…I really don’t know what to say here, but I do feel like this sort of nonsense is obligatory.

I’m Artemisia Absinthium, or Arti.  I’m in my mid-20s, living in New York City with my boyfriend of about three and a half years.  He needs a good pseudonym here.  I love him very much, and after a long and sometimes bumpy period of non-monogamous experimenting I recently found myself sort of unexpectedly falling in love and starting a relationship with my girlfriend, who also needs a good pseudonym.

I feel like sex blogs are kind of a dime a dozen these days, but I have been assured by many people (i.e., several of my twitter followers) that there’s nothing wrong with writing about myself and my experiences and I may not actually be insufferably self-centered.

I’ve actually had a sex blog before, but I wrote under a much more super-secret pseudonym then and I ended up feeling kind of stifled and strangled by all the work I was putting in to keep that blog separate from my real-life and online personae.

I’m working on being the person I really want to be, on being as fabulous and awesome as badass as I can imagine being without worrying so much about what other people think or if they’ll like me.  This is a part of working on that.  A big part of what I’m about is talking about sex–I think everybody should do it more.  I’m anti-shame and think the more people talk about sex the better we understand it and the more we understand ourselves and other people.  So if you don’t want to read about sex or BDSM, this blog may not be for you.

I also have Many Thoughts on Important Subjects, such as Sex and Feminism and Cultural Criticism.  I have maybe read a lot of blogs like the Pervocracy and Tiger Beatdown and been influenced by the writing styles of their authors.  This will be a place for those thoughts, so if you don’t want to read about ranty pop culture stuff (like endless complaining about how kink is a signifier of Something Seriously Wrong in mystery novels and police procedural TV shows), this blog may not be for you.

If you’re interested in reading about the “journey” of a sometimes-snarky, polyamorous, unsure-of-her-sexual-orientation, feminist submissive who has awesome friends and partners, is supposed to be starting training as a lady’s maid soon, occasionally dabbles in writing erotica, has a lot of vibrators, and is perhaps a tiny bit self-centered…well, hi.  This blog is exactly the place for you.